Adam Ruins Dating

Jul 30 2017

In this episode, Adam swipes right on knowledge to expose the flaws in dating sites, reveal why alpha males don’t really exist and explain how personality tests are a total failure. Fall in love with his sources.


“And there has never been a single independent peer-reviewed study testing eHarmonys algorithm.”

Eli J. Finkel et al. “Online Dating: A Critical Analysis From the Perspective of Psychological Science.” Psychological Science in the Public Interest, 7 March 2012.

“The Better Business Bureau told you those claims were misleading and to stop saying them.”

NAD Recommends eHarmony Discontinue Claims Challenged by” Council of Better Business Bureaus, 13 Aug 2014. 

“OkCupid doesn’t really know what its doing. Neither does any other web site.

Christian Rudder. “We Experiment On Human Beings!OkCupid blog, 28 July 2014.

“A major study found that no matter which you use, there’s no proof dating site algorithms are any better than matching people randomly.”

Eli J. Finkel and Benjamin R. Karney. “The Dubious Science of Online Dating.” The New York Times, 11 Feb 2012.

“One study found that similarities affect relationship satisfaction by less than half a percent.”

Portia S. Dyrenforth et al. “Predicting relationship and life satisfaction from personality in nationally representative samples from three countries: The relative importance of actor, partner, and similarity effects.” Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, Oct 2010. 

“But 20 years later, Mech tried to replicate his research in the wild instead of a park. And when he did, he realized he made a terrible mistake!”

L. David Mech. “Alpha Status, Dominance, and Division of Labor in Wolf Packs.” Canadian Journal of Zoology, 1999.

“Weird. You are more aggressive than me, but also wronger. First of all, chimps aren’t our closest genetic relatives. Bonobos are. And bonobos live in a matriarchal society.”

Natalie Angier. “In the Bonobo World, Female Camaraderie Prevails.” The New York Times, 10 Sep 2016.

“By doing favors, smaller, more mild-mannered males can become the dominant by obsessively grooming other chimps.”

M.W. Foster et al. “Alpha male chimpanzee grooming patterns: implications for dominance 'style'.” American Journal of Primatology, 2009.

“No you’re not. Unlike chimps, humans social hierarchies are constantly in flux.”

Burnett, Dean. “Do alpha males even exist?” The Guardian, 10 October 2016.

“Sorry, but research shows that agreeableness, kindness, and generosity are some of the strongest indicators of a long happy relationship.”

Emily Esfahani Smith. “Masters of Love.” The Atlantic, 2014.

Shpancer, Noam. “How Your Personality Can Predict Your Love Life.” Psychology Today, 2 Aug 2016.

“The year is 1943 and the war in Europe is raging. Magazine writer Katherine Briggs and her mystery novelist daughter, Isabel Myers- Briggs had, frankly, a lot of time on their hands.”

Annie Murphy Paul. The Cult of Personality Testing: How Personality Tests Are Leading Us to Miseducate Our Children, Mismanage Our Companies, and Misunderstand Ourselves. Simon and Schuster, 2004.

“Every individual is an exception to the rule... this kind of classification is nothing but a childish parlour game.”

Carl Jung. Psychological Types. Routledge, 1921.

“Today, the pointless Myers-Briggs parlor game is shunned by the scientific community. There’s even one psychologist on the actual board for Myers-Briggs who admitted publicly he wouldn’t use the test in his own research.”

Lillian Cunningham. “Myers-Briggs: Does it pay to know your type?” The Washington Post, 14 Dec 2012.

“Despite the fact there’s no sufficient evidence showing the Myers-Briggs Test is effective at predicting job satisfaction or compatibility. Its been used to make hiring and training decisions by over 10,000 companies, 2,500 colleges, and even the State Department and the CIA.”

David J. Pittenger. "Measuring the MBTI… and coming up short." Journal of Career Planning and Employment, 1993.

Lillian Cunningham. “Myers-Briggs: Does it pay to know your type?” The Washington Post, 14 Dec 2012.

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